Every late-identified autistic person has to build something new.
Something honest.
Something sustainable.
It’s not failure.
It’s freedom.
Every late-identified autistic person has to build something new.
Something honest.
Something sustainable.
It’s not failure.
It’s freedom.
It’s not about saying no to everything you used to say yes to.
It’s about asking - does this belong to me?
Because some of what you called masking was actually compassion.
Some of what you called people-pleasing was just love with nowhere safe to land.
It’s not about saying no to everything you used to say yes to.
It’s about asking - does this belong to me?
Because some of what you called masking was actually compassion.
Some of what you called people-pleasing was just love with nowhere safe to land.
If we want to create real, meaningful, and lasting change as a community... we need to start with radical inclusivity.
That means including every autistic person. Every. single. one.
If we want to create real, meaningful, and lasting change as a community... we need to start with radical inclusivity.
That means including every autistic person. Every. single. one.
You don’t need to be polite to be safe.
You don’t need to be productive to be worthy.
Your life is valuable just the way you are.
You don’t need to be polite to be safe.
You don’t need to be productive to be worthy.
Your life is valuable just the way you are.
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there,I do not sleep..
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting hush
of quiet birds in circle flights.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there. I did not die. M.E.Frye
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there,I do not sleep..
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting hush
of quiet birds in circle flights.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there. I did not die. M.E.Frye
But maybe you’re just tired of performing one.
You learned to show care in ways others didn’t understand.
Through honesty.
Through warning before a sound.
Through silence that meant safety.
That’s not failure.
That’s autistic love.
But maybe you’re just tired of performing one.
You learned to show care in ways others didn’t understand.
Through honesty.
Through warning before a sound.
Through silence that meant safety.
That’s not failure.
That’s autistic love.
Can't wait to spend more quality time together! ❤️🇺🇸
Can't wait to spend more quality time together! ❤️🇺🇸
Dominating the scene is NGC 4261, a massive elliptical galaxy in the upper half of the image. In the lower left sits the lenticular galaxy NGC 4281.
(Credit: RubinObs/NOIRLab/SLAC/NSF/DOE/AURA)
Dominating the scene is NGC 4261, a massive elliptical galaxy in the upper half of the image. In the lower left sits the lenticular galaxy NGC 4281.
(Credit: RubinObs/NOIRLab/SLAC/NSF/DOE/AURA)
It isn’t.
Not just, anyway.
It’s what happens when you’ve been adapting to a world that never adapts to you.
When every space demands you translate yourself just to be tolerated.
🧵🧶🪡
It isn’t.
Not just, anyway.
It’s what happens when you’ve been adapting to a world that never adapts to you.
When every space demands you translate yourself just to be tolerated.
🧵🧶🪡
It’s liberation.
Our nervous systems recognise each other.
Regulation replaces vigilance.
Safety replaces performance.
For many, it’s the first time they’ve ever been mirrored with compassion instead of correction.
It’s liberation.
Our nervous systems recognise each other.
Regulation replaces vigilance.
Safety replaces performance.
For many, it’s the first time they’ve ever been mirrored with compassion instead of correction.
It’s the endless small talk.
The unspoken rules.
The expectation to be “on” all the time.
Autistic people aren’t bad at working.
We’re tired of performing jobs inside jobs.
It’s the endless small talk.
The unspoken rules.
The expectation to be “on” all the time.
Autistic people aren’t bad at working.
We’re tired of performing jobs inside jobs.
10 YEAR OLD ME IS LOSING HER MIND (a thread 🧵)
But the truth is that unmasking is about being sustainable.
Living in alignment with our needs.
Choosing truth over performance.
If that means louder for you, cool.
But if it doesn’t, that isn’t unmasking - it’s just masking with a new character.
But the truth is that unmasking is about being sustainable.
Living in alignment with our needs.
Choosing truth over performance.
If that means louder for you, cool.
But if it doesn’t, that isn’t unmasking - it’s just masking with a new character.
10 YEAR OLD ME IS LOSING HER MIND (a thread 🧵)
10 YEAR OLD ME IS LOSING HER MIND (a thread 🧵)
Needs come before desires
Needs come before desires
Being an autistic person, I just wanted to say this….
Being autistic doesn’t mean you are rude, stupid, annoying, disobedient, stubborn, lazy or selfish……
Being an autistic person, I just wanted to say this….
Being autistic doesn’t mean you are rude, stupid, annoying, disobedient, stubborn, lazy or selfish……
They’re regulators, relationships, and meaning.
Call them “obsessions” and you pathologise survival and regulation.
Protect them like a part of you.
Because they are.
They’re regulators, relationships, and meaning.
Call them “obsessions” and you pathologise survival and regulation.
Protect them like a part of you.
Because they are.
We may need more space, or more intensity. Or less!
Less small talk, more depth.
But when we’re allowed to show up unmasked - our relationships aren’t less.
They’re real.
They’re sustaining.
We may need more space, or more intensity. Or less!
Less small talk, more depth.
But when we’re allowed to show up unmasked - our relationships aren’t less.
They’re real.
They’re sustaining.
Not failures. Not shame.
Signals from our bodyminds that needs have gone unmet for too long.
I’m hosting a seminar to unpack these truths - and what real support looks like.
Join me
www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-educa...
Not failures. Not shame.
Signals from our bodyminds that needs have gone unmet for too long.
I’m hosting a seminar to unpack these truths - and what real support looks like.
Join me
www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-educa...
Clear speech.
Eye contact.
Professionalism.
And punished the cost.
Exhaustion.
Burnout.
Collapse.
Masking isn’t a skill.
It’s a wound.
A scar.
It keeps you safe.
But at what price?
Clear speech.
Eye contact.
Professionalism.
And punished the cost.
Exhaustion.
Burnout.
Collapse.
Masking isn’t a skill.
It’s a wound.
A scar.
It keeps you safe.
But at what price?
An autistic person commits a crime.
Headlines call it an “autism problem”.
That is not analysis.
That is autistiphobia and ableism dressed as concern.
Autism does not cause crime.
Bigotry, poor boundaries, and bad systems do.
An autistic person commits a crime.
Headlines call it an “autism problem”.
That is not analysis.
That is autistiphobia and ableism dressed as concern.
Autism does not cause crime.
Bigotry, poor boundaries, and bad systems do.