Palesa
@palesam.bsky.social
31. Genderqueer. South African.
Drag king named Angelo.
🎶I trust my soul,
my only goal is just to be 🎶
🏳️🌈🇿🇦🏳️🌈
Drag king named Angelo.
🎶I trust my soul,
my only goal is just to be 🎶
🏳️🌈🇿🇦🏳️🌈
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Palesa
@palesam.bsky.social
· Nov 14
I'm new here because my favourite app is leaving so I'll be posting random things. Nonsense. Just what my brain conjures. Also chronic fatigue so I'll forever complain about being tired.
The burnout was severe. I'm so drained.
I need 2026 to be kinder
I need 2026 to be kinder
December 31, 2025 at 7:29 PM
The burnout was severe. I'm so drained.
I need 2026 to be kinder
I need 2026 to be kinder
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At this stage I'm like "what social battery?"
It died several months ago already
It died several months ago already
My social battery doesn’t drain, it flatlines
December 30, 2025 at 1:13 PM
At this stage I'm like "what social battery?"
It died several months ago already
It died several months ago already
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Having a body is absolute bullshit
December 30, 2025 at 12:54 PM
Having a body is absolute bullshit
It's wild to me that home affairs will sms you to tell you that your document is read but they don't say you need to make a booking to collect it.
I did for today. On the 5th of December. Guess whose booking isn't in the system despite me getting a confirmation sms? Anyway, they did it manually.
I did for today. On the 5th of December. Guess whose booking isn't in the system despite me getting a confirmation sms? Anyway, they did it manually.
December 29, 2025 at 8:22 AM
It's wild to me that home affairs will sms you to tell you that your document is read but they don't say you need to make a booking to collect it.
I did for today. On the 5th of December. Guess whose booking isn't in the system despite me getting a confirmation sms? Anyway, they did it manually.
I did for today. On the 5th of December. Guess whose booking isn't in the system despite me getting a confirmation sms? Anyway, they did it manually.
Please & thank you.
December 28, 2025 at 1:18 PM
Please & thank you.
The way I have to space out agreeing to things because I know if I say yes to a thing tomorrow, I can't do a thing for the rest of the week.
Also forgetting the words 😭😭😭
I hate it so much.
And yes, grieving the version of myself a few times a month.
Also forgetting the words 😭😭😭
I hate it so much.
And yes, grieving the version of myself a few times a month.
![“You don’t look sick.”
Thanks. That’s the goal.
But here’s what you don’t see:
I cancel plans I desperately want to attend.
I rest for hours after a shower.
I forget basic words mid-sentence.
I grieve a version of myself I barely remember.
I fight every day for a body that doesn’t cooperate.
It’s not just tired. It’s chronic illness.
Share this if you’ve ever been told you ‘don’t look sick.’
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December 27, 2025 at 6:52 PM
The way I have to space out agreeing to things because I know if I say yes to a thing tomorrow, I can't do a thing for the rest of the week.
Also forgetting the words 😭😭😭
I hate it so much.
And yes, grieving the version of myself a few times a month.
Also forgetting the words 😭😭😭
I hate it so much.
And yes, grieving the version of myself a few times a month.
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How i'm walking out of 2025
December 27, 2025 at 1:07 PM
How i'm walking out of 2025
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Utterly insane that some people want to shrink the breadth of their life experiences this aggressively because of their extremely narrow definition of what it means to be a man. The whole unga bunga alpha male personality is just broadcasting how insecure you are to the world.
December 27, 2025 at 12:13 PM
Utterly insane that some people want to shrink the breadth of their life experiences this aggressively because of their extremely narrow definition of what it means to be a man. The whole unga bunga alpha male personality is just broadcasting how insecure you are to the world.
I finished multiple books.
Somehow I'm semi-functional despite experiencing what I believe to be my most severe burnout. Maybe I've had it worse & I just blocked it out because my brain blocks out a lot anyway 😂😂😂
I performed 4 times. Drag performances.
Somehow I'm semi-functional despite experiencing what I believe to be my most severe burnout. Maybe I've had it worse & I just blocked it out because my brain blocks out a lot anyway 😂😂😂
I performed 4 times. Drag performances.
Quote this with what you have accomplished in 2025, no matter how big or small
Reading & writing has kept me alive this year.
Somehow, it’s been my most productive year as an author.
Here’s a guide to what I’ve published in 2025, in case you’ve lost track.
Individual links below but it’s all on itch: danifinn.itch.io
And elsewhere: books2read.com/ap/nAApPp/Da...
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Somehow, it’s been my most productive year as an author.
Here’s a guide to what I’ve published in 2025, in case you’ve lost track.
Individual links below but it’s all on itch: danifinn.itch.io
And elsewhere: books2read.com/ap/nAApPp/Da...
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December 27, 2025 at 2:34 PM
I finished multiple books.
Somehow I'm semi-functional despite experiencing what I believe to be my most severe burnout. Maybe I've had it worse & I just blocked it out because my brain blocks out a lot anyway 😂😂😂
I performed 4 times. Drag performances.
Somehow I'm semi-functional despite experiencing what I believe to be my most severe burnout. Maybe I've had it worse & I just blocked it out because my brain blocks out a lot anyway 😂😂😂
I performed 4 times. Drag performances.
My nephew had 3 costume changes for Christmas.
Yes, I'm calling them costume changes instead of outfit changes because he was the star of Christmas. Being the only baby will do that. And by baby, I mean infant. Toddlers are a separate category. There was a single toddler present too.
Yes, I'm calling them costume changes instead of outfit changes because he was the star of Christmas. Being the only baby will do that. And by baby, I mean infant. Toddlers are a separate category. There was a single toddler present too.
December 27, 2025 at 11:10 AM
My nephew had 3 costume changes for Christmas.
Yes, I'm calling them costume changes instead of outfit changes because he was the star of Christmas. Being the only baby will do that. And by baby, I mean infant. Toddlers are a separate category. There was a single toddler present too.
Yes, I'm calling them costume changes instead of outfit changes because he was the star of Christmas. Being the only baby will do that. And by baby, I mean infant. Toddlers are a separate category. There was a single toddler present too.
I'm going to a cat's birthday party on Monday so I'm going gift shopping for this cute baby.
Cat's name is Kiki.
Going to get her a toy & some treats.
Then some treats for my dog too.
Cat's name is Kiki.
Going to get her a toy & some treats.
Then some treats for my dog too.
December 27, 2025 at 11:05 AM
I'm going to a cat's birthday party on Monday so I'm going gift shopping for this cute baby.
Cat's name is Kiki.
Going to get her a toy & some treats.
Then some treats for my dog too.
Cat's name is Kiki.
Going to get her a toy & some treats.
Then some treats for my dog too.
Every now and then I remember that penis transplants are a thing that exist.
Why does my brain remind me of this? Who knows but it just does.
Why does my brain remind me of this? Who knows but it just does.
December 26, 2025 at 8:21 PM
Every now and then I remember that penis transplants are a thing that exist.
Why does my brain remind me of this? Who knows but it just does.
Why does my brain remind me of this? Who knows but it just does.
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For real. 2025 was trash. Writing it off. It didn't count. 2026 is a do-over year.
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December 25, 2025 at 5:28 PM
For real. 2025 was trash. Writing it off. It didn't count. 2026 is a do-over year.
Nevermind, I'm with my aunt & it's not so bad even with my nephew sleeping. He's so cute though. I wish babies didn't need to sleep so often. I know, they're growing but I want to play & watch them be fascinated with everything.
December 25, 2025 at 2:43 PM
Nevermind, I'm with my aunt & it's not so bad even with my nephew sleeping. He's so cute though. I wish babies didn't need to sleep so often. I know, they're growing but I want to play & watch them be fascinated with everything.
Also just having the worst time because the misgendering is killing me. Once my nephew goes down for a nap, what am I going to do? I forgot my book. I don't have my baby sister to lean on.
I don't know this house or the hosts, met them today, so like... I'm stuck. My brother is no help.
I don't know this house or the hosts, met them today, so like... I'm stuck. My brother is no help.
December 25, 2025 at 12:48 PM
Also just having the worst time because the misgendering is killing me. Once my nephew goes down for a nap, what am I going to do? I forgot my book. I don't have my baby sister to lean on.
I don't know this house or the hosts, met them today, so like... I'm stuck. My brother is no help.
I don't know this house or the hosts, met them today, so like... I'm stuck. My brother is no help.
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Have a great day to those celebrating and sending solidarity to those for whom today is a tough one x
December 25, 2025 at 9:41 AM
Have a great day to those celebrating and sending solidarity to those for whom today is a tough one x
If I wasn't so burnt out this year I probably would've planned my own meal. But my brain is operating on like 30% when it comes to tasks required for my survival. Cooking is impossible right now. I couldn't even plan my mom's Christmas present. I usually do it. This year I made my brother do it.
So I never have food at family things. Which again, whatever, I'm happy to bring my own but when people ask they make me think they'll consider it so I'd be the asshole if I showed up assuming the worst. I really should just start assuming the worst.
December 25, 2025 at 12:44 PM
If I wasn't so burnt out this year I probably would've planned my own meal. But my brain is operating on like 30% when it comes to tasks required for my survival. Cooking is impossible right now. I couldn't even plan my mom's Christmas present. I usually do it. This year I made my brother do it.
Had to go out to buy food because as usual, nobody ever accommodates the only vegan in the family. Which, fine but I'd rather we not say anything & then I can show up with my own food. Nobody, besides my gran who isn't hosting this year, ever asks the difference between vegan & vegetarian.
December 25, 2025 at 12:40 PM
Had to go out to buy food because as usual, nobody ever accommodates the only vegan in the family. Which, fine but I'd rather we not say anything & then I can show up with my own food. Nobody, besides my gran who isn't hosting this year, ever asks the difference between vegan & vegetarian.
Anyway, merry Christmas to all who celebrate. And let's hope 2026 is kinder to us all.
December 25, 2025 at 11:44 AM
Anyway, merry Christmas to all who celebrate. And let's hope 2026 is kinder to us all.
It's Christmas but it doesn't feel like it because it's the first Christmas without my baby sister.
She's in Guatemala. It's not the same without her. I'm sure my mom's having an even harder time. That's her baby. She was very upset when my sister told her she wouldn't be home for Christmas.
She's in Guatemala. It's not the same without her. I'm sure my mom's having an even harder time. That's her baby. She was very upset when my sister told her she wouldn't be home for Christmas.
December 25, 2025 at 11:43 AM
It's Christmas but it doesn't feel like it because it's the first Christmas without my baby sister.
She's in Guatemala. It's not the same without her. I'm sure my mom's having an even harder time. That's her baby. She was very upset when my sister told her she wouldn't be home for Christmas.
She's in Guatemala. It's not the same without her. I'm sure my mom's having an even harder time. That's her baby. She was very upset when my sister told her she wouldn't be home for Christmas.
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i believe the problem with most tech is capitalism and not the underlying tech. things can be fixed, improved, iterated upon, but not when the only driving motivator is profit. if we designed things with regard to our fellow humans and our world first, it wouldn't be this way.
December 25, 2025 at 2:26 AM
i believe the problem with most tech is capitalism and not the underlying tech. things can be fixed, improved, iterated upon, but not when the only driving motivator is profit. if we designed things with regard to our fellow humans and our world first, it wouldn't be this way.
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