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I. Hernandez

@hernando206.bsky.social

I watched my mother die a little less than a year ago, and in a matter of weeks I will watch my mother-in-law die, and this is entirely correct. Also, once you've experienced something like this once, the anxiety will presently differently the next time.

rax ‘levon honkers’ king @raxkingisdead.bsky.social · Oct 10

‘dear rax, how can i make sure i’m ready for the day my very sick mother dies?’
www.patreon.com/posts/140925...

Your question was whether there's a way to prepare for your mother's death, not whether there's a way to worry less about it, and I'll take a stab at answering that question using my experience with my father's as an example. No, you can't prepare for it. It will be like nothing you've felt yet. Maybe you think that if you worry about it really well—if you devote yourself to this anxiety, if you memorize your fear like a prayer—you can defeat it before it defeats you, like Roman's "pre-grieving" on Succession. But it didn't work for him because it doesn't work. Authoritative as it can feel, anxiety is incapable of describing anything it hasn't actually seen, like the death of a parent. All it can do is push us around various ugly landmarks in our minds: awful experiences we've already had, pains we've already processed. Anxiety is the blustering cokehead cousin of self-soothing. It brags about everything it knows to conceal the fact that it doesn't know anything. You can't feel what you haven't felt until, well...until you feel it.

October 10, 2025 at 7:52 PM

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Tim Onion

@bencollins.bsky.social

I got permission to share this, and I'm extremely grateful for that.

The Onion got this letter from one of our subscribers in Alaska. She works with dementia patients and decided to leave a copy in the car for each one.

This email made my year. Read it and you'll see what I mean. People are good.

I work as an elder and hospice caregiver, which I am oddly passionate about. I can love on them shamelessly and no one complains about my codependence. It's a win-win situation.

Many of my caregiving colleagues complain about the repetitive questions and, sometimes reactions, of the elderly, especially when those patients happen to read the newspaper, especially with the current downward spiral of our country — as if these people haven't lived through enough horror...

I love my dementia peeps, but sometimes wonder if there's a Guinness Book World Record for how many times an hour a dementia patient can repeat the same question — it's got to be in the hundreds. At least with small children, they ask different questions. Dementia patients will get stuck on one short question and ask it until you can interrupt their train(carousel) of thought and successfully redirect their attention. That carousel is pretty manic sometimes.

A couple days ago, I picked up my mail from the post office and drove over to the nursing home to take (let's call her "Miss Daisy") Miss Daisy out for a drive. Before we took off on our road trip, to the end of The Road and back, in our landlocked little town (Juneau, Alaska), I set my copy of The Onion down in front of her.

Over our two-hour excursion, tiny Miss Daisy read that front page at least a dozen times and each time she would snicker, giggle, and guffaw, then put it down on the dash board and, a minute later, discover it anew. I think it was the best afternoon of my life. We don't often hear them laugh and when they do, it's the sweetest thing you've ever heard.

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Thank you, thank you, thank you, for the really important work all of you do. You make the world a better place.

July 1, 2025 at 6:46 PM

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gold

@gold666.bsky.social

🫵trans ur lizarsd
happy pride

June 2, 2025 at 7:46 PM

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Keezy Young🌼

@keezyyoung.bsky.social

as always his threads are not just relevant for dressing oneself but also for character design

derek guy @dieworkwear.bsky.social · May 20

I get this question a lot. I don't have strong views on how transmasc people should dress, but since I often get the question, I've thought about it a bit. Will share some thoughts in this thread. 🧵

Someone on Twitter writes: "Derek would you ever consider doing a thread on how transmascs can dress well and have clothing that helps hides hips and stuff? Only advice I've gotten are straight leg jeans and a boxy shirt"

May 21, 2025 at 3:12 AM

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Kelly Turnbull

@coelasquid.bsky.social

105) Gray took the nightmare cyborg doctor out to Jollibee after he was up and moving around again to thank them for saving his life, because he assumed that they probably had a personality outside of being a terrifying spider cyborg mob doctor and would appreciate being treated like a person.