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Handy Dani Dyke @sharpdresseddyke.bsky.social · 1h

My insurance at the time would only cover vaginoplasty and that only for the employee, not spouse or dependents. Guess what was the one surgery any of us already had and was paid out of pocket?

The total donations were under $600, not even putting a dent in any one of the multiple expenses.

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Handy Dani Dyke @sharpdresseddyke.bsky.social · 1h

This basic experience is far too common. I did the same for the expenses of both getting my family out of Texas and my wife's and my transition surgeries. So many trans people attacked me over it, claiming I had insurance coverage for the surgeries and inflating claims of what I received from it.

Sloppy head enjoyer (era of eras era) @cisgirl.space · 3h

thinking about my amazing friend who did a top surgery crowdfund, organised events for it and everything and then got mocked and shamed for it by well off girls in the city who had their surgeries paid for by their buy to let landlord families, got their jobs through nepotism

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Handy Dani Dyke @sharpdresseddyke.bsky.social · 3h

I don't know if I should feel better or worse to know that I wasn't alone in that treatment from people on that site. I got it for regretting having vaginoplasty. I hate how often that shit happens to us

Handy Dani Dyke @sharpdresseddyke.bsky.social · 15h

Though largely came decades after I began transition and several years after my last surgery, finally happening because I divorced and got out of a relationship with someone who did not want those changes in me.

Sage Divinorum 🏳️‍⚧️ @trans.bsky.social · 16h

you do not have to be cold & alienated. you can instead be vibrant & alive, if you want.

you need to heal though & change many old behaviors that let you survive as a husk. those maladjusted coping mechanisms are not workable.

set down the quills & pick up an HRT needle. self-actualize.

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Ezekiel Bones @jjofbc.bsky.social · 21h

the one that gets my goat hardest is how chest surgery for cis boys is routine and done well before adulthood but the very same surgery is basically impossible for trans boys to get before adulthood

FreeLinkophant Shelley B Woke - Living Saint of Purity🏳️‍⚧️🖤💜🤍 💛 @shelleybwoke.bsky.social · Dec 23

I've developed this helpful sign for people who haven't done the reading.

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Dr. Emily Arndt 🏳️‍⚧️ @brachinus.bsky.social · 20h

insane. imagine building such a great political journalism team and pissing it away

Lex McMenamin (they/them) @leximcmenamin.com · 22h

I was laid off from Teen Vogue today along with multiple other staffers, and today is my last day.

certainly more to come from me when the dust has settled more, but to my knowledge, after today, there will be no politics staffers at Teen Vogue.

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Spacey Kacey @kaceyisspacey.bsky.social · 20h

Girl who is in multiple loving t4t lesbian relationships voice: "what if im actually straight?"

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Toya 🚀🔭 @astrotoya.bsky.social · 1d

Hey all 🚀

I was raped in July, lost a pregnancy by him and lost my job. My rapist attacked me recently & I can’t afford rent. My bank is in the negatives.

Can yall share this? Help me if you can. I am $550 short.

My v e n m o is : @astrotoya
My c a s h a p p : $astrotoya
or PayPal.me/toyamck

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Handy Dani Dyke @sharpdresseddyke.bsky.social · 1d

Silly story: when I was going through a divorce in which my ex tried to make just about everything I did, online and off, into a complaint in the proceeding, I posted this line with a link to the song on YouTube.

FreeLinkophant Shelley B Woke - Living Saint of Purity🏳️‍⚧️🖤💜🤍 💛 @shelleybwoke.bsky.social · 1d

I bet you think this poast is about you, don't you

Denise Breen 🖖 @denisebreen.bsky.social · 1d

Singers Carly Simon and James Taylor married on this day November 3, 1972, in her Manhattan apartment, and were married for about ten years before announcing their separation in 1981, with their divorce finalized in 1983. The couple's marriage was a significant event in the music industry.

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🪷NINEVEH🪓 @nineveh-aka-nini.bsky.social · 1d

You’ll never feel better putting down that awkward trans woman. You’ll never feel good making fun of her excessive attempts to be pretty. It won’t graduate u from trans college. OTOH, if u become an unannounced, unofficial, greeter n big sis… U will grow. U will grow deep. N u will grow love.

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Handy Dani Dyke @sharpdresseddyke.bsky.social · 1d

If it helps any: I understand that reaction more than I like to admit. It's fucking rough and easy to understand how much surgery recovery is

Handy Dani Dyke @sharpdresseddyke.bsky.social · 1d

I intentionally posted that text with a link to the song on YouTube while I was going through a divorce and my ex was trying to make an issue of anything I posted online no matter how obviously unrelated it was.

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Handy Dani Dyke @sharpdresseddyke.bsky.social · 1d

Got out to @queermotoclub.bsky.social Snail Skillz today. It's good to both get some practice in and see the crew.

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Handy Dani Dyke @sharpdresseddyke.bsky.social · 2d

For my work, yes.

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Handy Dani Dyke @sharpdresseddyke.bsky.social · 2d

22 hours later the server maintenance is done!

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Handy Dani Dyke @sharpdresseddyke.bsky.social · Mar 27

One of the worst Transfem Takes I hear is "there are rules to transition."

My sister in HRT, kill the gatekeeper in your head. There are no rules. Make your transition be yours, high femme pin-up model, butch diesel mechanic, or anything in between. Do it because it's what you want for your life.

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Handy Dani Dyke @sharpdresseddyke.bsky.social · 2d

I have gotten remarks about the fact that I do solo camping while traveling on a motorcycle.

I do use campgrounds, though.

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Handy Dani Dyke @sharpdresseddyke.bsky.social · 2d

Circa 2000 I was in an online trans group with someone who would go to the parties we had and then demand that we could not share any photos or talk about it online at all, even with making sure that she wasn't in the pics or mentioned, because she was going stealth.

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SPOOKY Mistress Usili (Sage) 🏳️‍⚧️ @usili.bsky.social · 3d

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Handy Dani Dyke @sharpdresseddyke.bsky.social · 2d

WTF? It's November 1st and chilly...

A blue ice cream van traveling down a neighborhood street.

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nel gosh @thunderflower.bsky.social · Apr 21

it's time to help me fund my bottom surgery! gofund.me/e6cc77c2

Donate to Nel's Bottom Surgery Fund, organized by Penelope Brannen

Hi, I'm Nel! I am currently raising money for bottom surgery, including electrolysis, medic… Penelope Brannen needs your support for Nel's Bottom Surgery Fund

gofund.me

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Handy Dani Dyke @sharpdresseddyke.bsky.social · 2d

Ooof! I'm glad you were able to weather it.

The worst for me was that they decided to increase it when I began doing trans activism, particularly against the North Carolina "bathroom bill" (I lived in Raleigh at the time.) It was sad how they would undermine such work out of a grudge.

Handy Dani Dyke @sharpdresseddyke.bsky.social · 2d

A blue lite Halloween decoration graveyard with multiple headstones and a sign reading "Shadow Pines Cemetery" with trees towering overhead

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Handy Dani Dyke @sharpdresseddyke.bsky.social · 3d

Indeed there will be, but then there's stuff that is dangerous and ignoring it is actively dangerous. I've experienced both

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Handy Dani Dyke @sharpdresseddyke.bsky.social · 3d

I'm so sorry. Not that you need me to say this but you have every right to be mad about it. I still am about the barriers that blocked me years ago

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