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my therapist recommended the book Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski & Amelia Nagoski

after experiencing stress, YOU MUST DO SOMETHING to tell your body that it is safe, otherwise you’re still soaked in stress juice

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im sorry i know it sucks but journalists are going to have to be willing to get fired for simply describing what they see happening with their own eyes, you look like fucking morons

before you click, imagine what you think the music will be

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if any of y’all are stuck working during the holidays, you have my support. I’ve been lucky to be at orgs with holiday shutdowns (except oncalls) and it’s just the right thing to do. productivity dips this week anyway. it’s so cheap to just cut these days and an easy culture win. advocate for 2026.

I can see now how much of bujo culture is about the regulated practice and joy of art & self-reflection. there are so many complex layouts / inspo / trackers that I find fundamentally difficult to read, but I now see that’s missing some of the point. 🎨
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for some reason that Coates / Klein moment about immediacy / “winning” embedded itself deeply in my cortex and I know it’s not logical but I feel all these same neurons firing

I volunteered for a bunch of the logistics this year and it was a big project that went pretty good. somehow 15lbs cooked in ~2 hrs. convection went crazy on that bird. made soup today after gifts. took a couple hours of being home before I felt like, oh, we did it. these are the last of the dishes

listened to a BTB pod on Kent H who befriended a pedophile. the structure of his excuses has stuck with me. he spoke about his friend’s actions in a legal sense, “so it was okay”

I have this childhood sense of knowing that “legal age” was important to a lot of men

It’s that time of the year where Home Alone is going to be on tv a bunch. As relatives go “they should have had a battery powered alarm” and make other judgments on the family’s lack of responsibility in forgetting their kid, get a better source to learn from what happened.

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This report co-prepared by @dairinstitute.bsky.social is *horrifying*. data-workers.org/wp-content/u...

It turns out that, yes, you can give cis people gender dysphoria by forcing them to do immersive sexual roleplay in shifts, without regard to their gender identity and sexuality.

Holy shit.

Reuters reporting that new admin instructions on visas are if you worked at a platform in trust & safety or content moderation or on fact checking or online safety at an platform you *and your loved ones* are ineligible for H-1B visa.

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woooo it’s here! @quinnae.com ✨📖

I’ve been thinking a lot about social software accommodating human impulse. like if there was a “CLICK HERE TO MAKE A LOUD BAD DECISION” button then maybe I would be less of a Posting Risk? lol anyway psyched to dig in on this problem space again

I don't think transgender athletes are the problem facing girls and women in sports.

I’ve had an intense time the last couple of days and this is the rewatch I reached for. so much to learn here for Animation technique & performance, but just so playful

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y'know as a teen computer dork working in fast food I was somehow able to bond with my dad over a software culture comic (I HAD A TSHIRT) and maybe this can heal something about how THAT all turned out

I don't know how to start / cue a habit of regularly organizing photos and vids. I always have new videos from dance classes, rehearsals, freestyle, events, etc but they seem like a fundamentally different category of media, mixed in with photos of flowers and cats

It's finally up! A collection of links to news articles, interviews, panels, etc for & related to FUoS, sexism, & online harassment in games. FUoS was active more than a decade ago, so it's been an interesting exploration of the discourse from that time fatuglyorslutty.com/links.html

found that sick laser-eyes pfp while collecting old FUoS links
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