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I wrote a blog about myself and my story. It’s really about where I started and where I am now… from Hating myself and resenting my kids for loving a “piece of shit” (Me! Their Dad…) to being a friend to myself.
open.substack.com/pub/untapped...
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Finding Myself After Quitting Drinking: From Numb to Present
How I discovered myself during the worst years of my life
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November 11, 2025 at 12:19 PM
I wrote a blog about myself and my story. It’s really about where I started and where I am now… from Hating myself and resenting my kids for loving a “piece of shit” (Me! Their Dad…) to being a friend to myself.
open.substack.com/pub/untapped...
open.substack.com/pub/untapped...
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In realistic trauma recovery, we need to remind ourselves, over & over, that it's safe to make mistakes. That doesn't mean we love it, or we're cavalier about it-- it means we're not going to punish or shame ourselves for being human.
That we're NOT like our bullies & abusers.
That we're NOT like our bullies & abusers.
October 1, 2025 at 8:11 PM
In realistic trauma recovery, we need to remind ourselves, over & over, that it's safe to make mistakes. That doesn't mean we love it, or we're cavalier about it-- it means we're not going to punish or shame ourselves for being human.
That we're NOT like our bullies & abusers.
That we're NOT like our bullies & abusers.
That Voice in Your Head is a Liar (And Here’s What I’m Learning About It)
Your inner critic argues for an old story. Move to neutral: “I’m okay.” Try the 4 A’s I use: Awareness, Acceptance, Assess, Action.
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Your inner critic argues for an old story. Move to neutral: “I’m okay.” Try the 4 A’s I use: Awareness, Acceptance, Assess, Action.
open.substack.com/pub/untapped...
That Voice in Your Head is a Liar (And Here’s What I’m Learning About It)
Your inner critic isn’t trying to help you. It’s trying to keep you safe by keeping you small.
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October 2, 2025 at 5:30 PM
That Voice in Your Head is a Liar (And Here’s What I’m Learning About It)
Your inner critic argues for an old story. Move to neutral: “I’m okay.” Try the 4 A’s I use: Awareness, Acceptance, Assess, Action.
open.substack.com/pub/untapped...
Your inner critic argues for an old story. Move to neutral: “I’m okay.” Try the 4 A’s I use: Awareness, Acceptance, Assess, Action.
open.substack.com/pub/untapped...
What if… we changed the definition of Perfection to taking Messy Action?
At least internally for ourselves.
At least internally for ourselves.
September 27, 2025 at 6:39 PM
What if… we changed the definition of Perfection to taking Messy Action?
At least internally for ourselves.
At least internally for ourselves.
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"Letting go" isn't a decision. It's a skill that involves acknowledging & honoring our feelings, coupled w/ redirecting our focus & affirming our new story.
We don't struggle w/ "letting go" because we're "stubborn." We struggle w/ it because we're still developing that skill.
We don't struggle w/ "letting go" because we're "stubborn." We struggle w/ it because we're still developing that skill.
August 23, 2025 at 3:10 PM
"Letting go" isn't a decision. It's a skill that involves acknowledging & honoring our feelings, coupled w/ redirecting our focus & affirming our new story.
We don't struggle w/ "letting go" because we're "stubborn." We struggle w/ it because we're still developing that skill.
We don't struggle w/ "letting go" because we're "stubborn." We struggle w/ it because we're still developing that skill.
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Friendliness isn't always a sign of trustworthiness. Warmth is easy to fake.
The foundations of trust are reliability and integrity. What counts isn't courtesy in the moment—it's keeping commitments over time.
The best way to inspire confidence is to consistently walk our talk.
The foundations of trust are reliability and integrity. What counts isn't courtesy in the moment—it's keeping commitments over time.
The best way to inspire confidence is to consistently walk our talk.
August 2, 2025 at 4:54 PM
Friendliness isn't always a sign of trustworthiness. Warmth is easy to fake.
The foundations of trust are reliability and integrity. What counts isn't courtesy in the moment—it's keeping commitments over time.
The best way to inspire confidence is to consistently walk our talk.
The foundations of trust are reliability and integrity. What counts isn't courtesy in the moment—it's keeping commitments over time.
The best way to inspire confidence is to consistently walk our talk.
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People who cheat on their spouses are more likely to cheat at work, too.
Evidence: Marital infidelity predicts 2-3x greater odds of professional misconduct among CEOs, financial advisors, and police officers.
Integrity is not a 9-5 job. Character counts in every part of life.
Evidence: Marital infidelity predicts 2-3x greater odds of professional misconduct among CEOs, financial advisors, and police officers.
Integrity is not a 9-5 job. Character counts in every part of life.
July 24, 2025 at 2:01 PM
People who cheat on their spouses are more likely to cheat at work, too.
Evidence: Marital infidelity predicts 2-3x greater odds of professional misconduct among CEOs, financial advisors, and police officers.
Integrity is not a 9-5 job. Character counts in every part of life.
Evidence: Marital infidelity predicts 2-3x greater odds of professional misconduct among CEOs, financial advisors, and police officers.
Integrity is not a 9-5 job. Character counts in every part of life.
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I AM SHRIEKING 💀🤣
Forget the statue at City Hall, this guy is the *real* Spirit of Detroit. 🫡
Forget the statue at City Hall, this guy is the *real* Spirit of Detroit. 🫡
July 22, 2025 at 7:16 PM
I AM SHRIEKING 💀🤣
Forget the statue at City Hall, this guy is the *real* Spirit of Detroit. 🫡
Forget the statue at City Hall, this guy is the *real* Spirit of Detroit. 🫡
Think of your subconscious beliefs like Filters. Everything you take in for information is run through them. Everything.
So when you are wondering why you’re so negative or why you can’t change something know it isn’t you. It’s your filters.
Change your filters, change your life!!! #mentalhealth
So when you are wondering why you’re so negative or why you can’t change something know it isn’t you. It’s your filters.
Change your filters, change your life!!! #mentalhealth
July 6, 2025 at 6:29 PM
Think of your subconscious beliefs like Filters. Everything you take in for information is run through them. Everything.
So when you are wondering why you’re so negative or why you can’t change something know it isn’t you. It’s your filters.
Change your filters, change your life!!! #mentalhealth
So when you are wondering why you’re so negative or why you can’t change something know it isn’t you. It’s your filters.
Change your filters, change your life!!! #mentalhealth
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The best way to gauge others’ values isn’t to ask them directly. It’s to find out who they respect.
Shallow people are impressed by superficiality. They look up to beauty, fame, money, and power.
Deep people are drawn to substance. They admire wisdom, kindness, humility, and integrity.
Shallow people are impressed by superficiality. They look up to beauty, fame, money, and power.
Deep people are drawn to substance. They admire wisdom, kindness, humility, and integrity.
June 27, 2025 at 4:04 PM
The best way to gauge others’ values isn’t to ask them directly. It’s to find out who they respect.
Shallow people are impressed by superficiality. They look up to beauty, fame, money, and power.
Deep people are drawn to substance. They admire wisdom, kindness, humility, and integrity.
Shallow people are impressed by superficiality. They look up to beauty, fame, money, and power.
Deep people are drawn to substance. They admire wisdom, kindness, humility, and integrity.
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Making amends w/ the "parts" of ourselves we've been conditioned to ignore or belittle is an ongoing part of daily recovery for many trauma survivors.
Self-forgiveness & understanding is way more important to realistic recovery than understanding or forgiving our perpetrators.
Self-forgiveness & understanding is way more important to realistic recovery than understanding or forgiving our perpetrators.
June 7, 2025 at 1:31 AM
Making amends w/ the "parts" of ourselves we've been conditioned to ignore or belittle is an ongoing part of daily recovery for many trauma survivors.
Self-forgiveness & understanding is way more important to realistic recovery than understanding or forgiving our perpetrators.
Self-forgiveness & understanding is way more important to realistic recovery than understanding or forgiving our perpetrators.
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3 years ago, my 4-year-old understood emotions better than I did at 35.
I could’ve laughed it off. I chose to change.
A year later, we sat in a school hallway and cried together — no fixing, just feeling.
That’s what emotional clarity gave me.
🧭 Free 30-Day Challenge → link in bio
I could’ve laughed it off. I chose to change.
A year later, we sat in a school hallway and cried together — no fixing, just feeling.
That’s what emotional clarity gave me.
🧭 Free 30-Day Challenge → link in bio
May 30, 2025 at 1:33 AM
3 years ago, my 4-year-old understood emotions better than I did at 35.
I could’ve laughed it off. I chose to change.
A year later, we sat in a school hallway and cried together — no fixing, just feeling.
That’s what emotional clarity gave me.
🧭 Free 30-Day Challenge → link in bio
I could’ve laughed it off. I chose to change.
A year later, we sat in a school hallway and cried together — no fixing, just feeling.
That’s what emotional clarity gave me.
🧭 Free 30-Day Challenge → link in bio
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The most important part of an apology is not saying sorry. It's taking responsibility for what you did wrong and taking action to make it right.
Admitting mistakes doesn’t mean you're a bad person. It's an effort to be a better person—and a display of care for another person.
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Admitting mistakes doesn’t mean you're a bad person. It's an effort to be a better person—and a display of care for another person.
link.chtbl.com/RTAdam
May 28, 2025 at 2:42 PM
The most important part of an apology is not saying sorry. It's taking responsibility for what you did wrong and taking action to make it right.
Admitting mistakes doesn’t mean you're a bad person. It's an effort to be a better person—and a display of care for another person.
link.chtbl.com/RTAdam
Admitting mistakes doesn’t mean you're a bad person. It's an effort to be a better person—and a display of care for another person.
link.chtbl.com/RTAdam
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Hello twitter emigres! If you are here, poking around, a bit confused—a lot of the football folks you know are already on this app! Smash the subscribe button on this starter pack and you’ll instantly have a timeline 👇
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May 24, 2025 at 2:38 PM
Hello twitter emigres! If you are here, poking around, a bit confused—a lot of the football folks you know are already on this app! Smash the subscribe button on this starter pack and you’ll instantly have a timeline 👇
go.bsky.app/8RH6KbH
go.bsky.app/8RH6KbH
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I recently saw the quote, "I can't celebrate my achievements, because in my mind, it was my obligation to achieve it"
I hold myself to a high standard with my work, and since this I've been trying to celebrate wins more often and is something we should all do #MentalHealthMonday
I hold myself to a high standard with my work, and since this I've been trying to celebrate wins more often and is something we should all do #MentalHealthMonday
May 19, 2025 at 6:01 PM
I recently saw the quote, "I can't celebrate my achievements, because in my mind, it was my obligation to achieve it"
I hold myself to a high standard with my work, and since this I've been trying to celebrate wins more often and is something we should all do #MentalHealthMonday
I hold myself to a high standard with my work, and since this I've been trying to celebrate wins more often and is something we should all do #MentalHealthMonday
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Safe relationships take time to build & require consistent effort to sustain-- including our relationship w/ ourselves.
Realistic trauma recovery means intentionally rebuilding & nurturing our relationship w/ ourselves, without judgment or shame, every single day. No days off.
Realistic trauma recovery means intentionally rebuilding & nurturing our relationship w/ ourselves, without judgment or shame, every single day. No days off.
May 13, 2025 at 5:26 PM
Safe relationships take time to build & require consistent effort to sustain-- including our relationship w/ ourselves.
Realistic trauma recovery means intentionally rebuilding & nurturing our relationship w/ ourselves, without judgment or shame, every single day. No days off.
Realistic trauma recovery means intentionally rebuilding & nurturing our relationship w/ ourselves, without judgment or shame, every single day. No days off.
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Pedro Pascal reshares video which says the U.S. has become a police state
A state where there is no higher authority
A state where there is no higher authority
May 12, 2025 at 7:00 PM
Pedro Pascal reshares video which says the U.S. has become a police state
A state where there is no higher authority
A state where there is no higher authority
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Society underestimates the risk from alcohol. More than 178K Americans died in 2020 and 2021 from excessive #alcohol use, a 23% increase from 2016 and 2017. And more than died from overdose. 1 in 5 deaths among people aged 20 to 49 years are attributable to alcohol. #addiction
a woman is holding a large glass that says just one glass on it
ALT: a woman is holding a large glass that says just one glass on it
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May 12, 2025 at 2:02 PM
Society underestimates the risk from alcohol. More than 178K Americans died in 2020 and 2021 from excessive #alcohol use, a 23% increase from 2016 and 2017. And more than died from overdose. 1 in 5 deaths among people aged 20 to 49 years are attributable to alcohol. #addiction
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✨Happy May the Fourth from all of us at Star Wars News Net!
May the Force guide you today and always — in every galaxy, near and far.
Here's to lightsabers, legends, and the love that unites fans across the stars. 💫
May the Force guide you today and always — in every galaxy, near and far.
Here's to lightsabers, legends, and the love that unites fans across the stars. 💫
May 4, 2025 at 12:03 PM
✨Happy May the Fourth from all of us at Star Wars News Net!
May the Force guide you today and always — in every galaxy, near and far.
Here's to lightsabers, legends, and the love that unites fans across the stars. 💫
May the Force guide you today and always — in every galaxy, near and far.
Here's to lightsabers, legends, and the love that unites fans across the stars. 💫
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Switzerland's positive experience after making methadone easy to get, which is relevant to the US as profiteering methadone clinics fight expanding access. #harmreduction #addiction #opioids
www.statnews.com/2024/03/26/o...
www.statnews.com/2024/03/26/o...
Switzerland had a drug overdose crisis. Then it made methadone easy to get
Switzerland has an overdose death rate that is roughly one-twentieth the rate in the United States. It got there by opening up treatment.
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April 28, 2025 at 12:24 PM
Switzerland's positive experience after making methadone easy to get, which is relevant to the US as profiteering methadone clinics fight expanding access. #harmreduction #addiction #opioids
www.statnews.com/2024/03/26/o...
www.statnews.com/2024/03/26/o...
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Neil degrees Tyson Explaining the "God of the Gaps".
April 27, 2025 at 11:20 PM
Neil degrees Tyson Explaining the "God of the Gaps".
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So with rejection sensitivity comes an intense fear and anxiety related to criticism and judgment... but it also comes with a desperate need to feel accepted. And I think we need to talk about this more. Because it's much more deeply internalized and way harder to rationalize yourself out of.
April 27, 2025 at 3:07 AM
So with rejection sensitivity comes an intense fear and anxiety related to criticism and judgment... but it also comes with a desperate need to feel accepted. And I think we need to talk about this more. Because it's much more deeply internalized and way harder to rationalize yourself out of.
Don’t accept your experience and perspective as the ‘Definitive’ one. Also, don’t accept that your experience or perspective doesn’t matter. Find the area in between, that’s where your peace and alignment lie.
April 26, 2025 at 8:27 PM
Don’t accept your experience and perspective as the ‘Definitive’ one. Also, don’t accept that your experience or perspective doesn’t matter. Find the area in between, that’s where your peace and alignment lie.