Victoria Duncan
@victoriaduncan.bsky.social
Autistic woman writing about autism, neurodiversity and neuronormative culture. She/her.
"I don't have any problems, why am I so tired" syndrome
Tl;dr many ND people develop systems to cope with their challenges, and when the systems work they don't notice the challenges anymore, but maintaining the systems can be exhausting and when they break down the functions they were supporting break down too.
November 26, 2025 at 4:20 AM
"I don't have any problems, why am I so tired" syndrome
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Tl;dr many ND people develop systems to cope with their challenges, and when the systems work they don't notice the challenges anymore, but maintaining the systems can be exhausting and when they break down the functions they were supporting break down too.
November 26, 2025 at 3:43 AM
Tl;dr many ND people develop systems to cope with their challenges, and when the systems work they don't notice the challenges anymore, but maintaining the systems can be exhausting and when they break down the functions they were supporting break down too.
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🎁 For this holiday season, consider gifting COLOR TASTE TEXTURE! It’s a great primer for people of all ages with little to no experience cooking. If you have some neurodivergent friends and family, or parents of littles, they might love this! It’s not just a cookbook, it’s a new approach to food. 🎁
I’m an Autistic classically trained chef and I wrote a food aversion acceptance cookbook and guide titled COLOR TASTE TEXTURE, that’s all about finding out what works for specific sensory needs and how to customize food for them. It’s useful for all ages, no cooking experience necessary.
Color Taste Texture by Matthew Broberg-Moffitt: 9780593538593 | PenguinRandomHouse.com: Books
An accessible family cookbook that offers solutions rather than tricks to empower the food-averse, autistic, and picky eater, with 46 recipes. This much-needed cookbook combines tips and techniques.....
www.penguinrandomhouse.com
November 23, 2025 at 9:40 PM
🎁 For this holiday season, consider gifting COLOR TASTE TEXTURE! It’s a great primer for people of all ages with little to no experience cooking. If you have some neurodivergent friends and family, or parents of littles, they might love this! It’s not just a cookbook, it’s a new approach to food. 🎁
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The stainless steel interlopers, which are new and were absolutely unasked for, were introduced to 27-year-old Ryan Wilkins’ household last Friday, and immediately began to upend the status quo.
New cutlery fully ruins autistic man’s life
An autistic man’s entire life has been turned upside down thanks to the introduction of a new set of cutlery, sources have claimed. The stainless steel interlopers, which are new and were absolutely…
thedailytism.com
November 23, 2025 at 2:31 PM
The stainless steel interlopers, which are new and were absolutely unasked for, were introduced to 27-year-old Ryan Wilkins’ household last Friday, and immediately began to upend the status quo.
Tough night with my dog. There was a storm and she had an hours-long panic attack in the middle of the night. I'm getting her checked out ASAP but oof. It's hard when the puppo is not ok.
November 23, 2025 at 7:44 PM
Tough night with my dog. There was a storm and she had an hours-long panic attack in the middle of the night. I'm getting her checked out ASAP but oof. It's hard when the puppo is not ok.
When in doubt I shove more information into the pattern recognition machine that lives in my brain and wait for there to be enough data to support a decision in the fork of a hunch.
It looks like overanalysis but it's just slow-but-correct analysis.
It looks like overanalysis but it's just slow-but-correct analysis.
November 23, 2025 at 1:44 AM
When in doubt I shove more information into the pattern recognition machine that lives in my brain and wait for there to be enough data to support a decision in the fork of a hunch.
It looks like overanalysis but it's just slow-but-correct analysis.
It looks like overanalysis but it's just slow-but-correct analysis.
Things I have to explain as an autistic person with a (mostly) ADHD family:
- I do not need stimulation. I need peace & quiet.
- I spend all my time trying to lower my cortisol, stop being overstimulated, and get back to baseline.
- I love you but I know exactly how many minutes we've been talking
- I do not need stimulation. I need peace & quiet.
- I spend all my time trying to lower my cortisol, stop being overstimulated, and get back to baseline.
- I love you but I know exactly how many minutes we've been talking
November 22, 2025 at 4:57 AM
Things I have to explain as an autistic person with a (mostly) ADHD family:
- I do not need stimulation. I need peace & quiet.
- I spend all my time trying to lower my cortisol, stop being overstimulated, and get back to baseline.
- I love you but I know exactly how many minutes we've been talking
- I do not need stimulation. I need peace & quiet.
- I spend all my time trying to lower my cortisol, stop being overstimulated, and get back to baseline.
- I love you but I know exactly how many minutes we've been talking
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Would like to make the suggestion (as a autistic) that the causes of autism are somewhere in the unreadacted Epstein Files.
I know this as we haven't ruled it out and the goverment hasn't pursued this. So we obviously need to release them all.
I know this as we haven't ruled it out and the goverment hasn't pursued this. So we obviously need to release them all.
November 21, 2025 at 12:18 AM
Would like to make the suggestion (as a autistic) that the causes of autism are somewhere in the unreadacted Epstein Files.
I know this as we haven't ruled it out and the goverment hasn't pursued this. So we obviously need to release them all.
I know this as we haven't ruled it out and the goverment hasn't pursued this. So we obviously need to release them all.
If you want to comment on one of my posts "that's not an autism thing", I'm past the point of fighting with you. You will get a thumbs up or an "OK!" because that is the correct amount of energy for me to spend on whatever it is you're trying to prove.
November 20, 2025 at 4:52 AM
If you want to comment on one of my posts "that's not an autism thing", I'm past the point of fighting with you. You will get a thumbs up or an "OK!" because that is the correct amount of energy for me to spend on whatever it is you're trying to prove.
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It's fascinating when people seem belligerent about a random topic (cooking, frex). If I post a yam recipe & you hate yams, the recipe isn't wrong. It's just not for -you-.
But I don't have the argue-on-the-internet gene. If I disagree, then 'this post does not apply to me' & I keep scrolling. 🤷♀️
But I don't have the argue-on-the-internet gene. If I disagree, then 'this post does not apply to me' & I keep scrolling. 🤷♀️
November 20, 2025 at 1:17 AM
It's fascinating when people seem belligerent about a random topic (cooking, frex). If I post a yam recipe & you hate yams, the recipe isn't wrong. It's just not for -you-.
But I don't have the argue-on-the-internet gene. If I disagree, then 'this post does not apply to me' & I keep scrolling. 🤷♀️
But I don't have the argue-on-the-internet gene. If I disagree, then 'this post does not apply to me' & I keep scrolling. 🤷♀️
Today I had to explain to my husband that Epstein Island and Mar-a-Lago are not the same place. I'm so mad at this timeline.
November 19, 2025 at 10:36 PM
Today I had to explain to my husband that Epstein Island and Mar-a-Lago are not the same place. I'm so mad at this timeline.
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What they wanted instead, from me, was instructions for dealing with disabled employees that they could use to ignore their actual disabled employees. What they wanted was a checklist they could point to when their employees complained & say: "see, you're wrong; I did it right."
November 19, 2025 at 6:14 PM
What they wanted instead, from me, was instructions for dealing with disabled employees that they could use to ignore their actual disabled employees. What they wanted was a checklist they could point to when their employees complained & say: "see, you're wrong; I did it right."
Leaders will ask disability advocates they don't even know for checklists and rules and guidance on any topic before they will ask their one employee with a chronic illness what they want to do as a team building activity.
November 19, 2025 at 5:06 PM
Leaders will ask disability advocates they don't even know for checklists and rules and guidance on any topic before they will ask their one employee with a chronic illness what they want to do as a team building activity.
If you are an autistic person who believes doing taxes is crazy hard because you grew up watching your ADHD dad agonizing over them so you've avoided them as hard as you can your whole life
Just try it. It might all make sense to you.
And then you can help your ADHD spouse 😭
Just try it. It might all make sense to you.
And then you can help your ADHD spouse 😭
November 19, 2025 at 4:48 AM
If you are an autistic person who believes doing taxes is crazy hard because you grew up watching your ADHD dad agonizing over them so you've avoided them as hard as you can your whole life
Just try it. It might all make sense to you.
And then you can help your ADHD spouse 😭
Just try it. It might all make sense to you.
And then you can help your ADHD spouse 😭
The autism tax is when it takes me 30 minutes to write a short email because I'm weighing how much information to include and my autistic brain is screaming ALL OF IT
November 19, 2025 at 4:25 AM
The autism tax is when it takes me 30 minutes to write a short email because I'm weighing how much information to include and my autistic brain is screaming ALL OF IT
I will never forget the coworker, a mother of an autistic child, who asked me in all seriousness if I REALLY thought that being autistic was a different experience than being an autistic kid's parent. If I really thought she didn't fully understand her kid's experience.
I recently read a thread by @erinbiba.bsky.social about abled parents of disabled children being ableist. I don't know if you all understand the ways in which you fundamentally don't get your children's disability experiences. Not your fault, but also, know your place. 1/
November 19, 2025 at 2:40 AM
I will never forget the coworker, a mother of an autistic child, who asked me in all seriousness if I REALLY thought that being autistic was a different experience than being an autistic kid's parent. If I really thought she didn't fully understand her kid's experience.
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Riding the bus to see the movies is like a fuckin mix of my autistic hyperfixations, like this is the closest I’ll ever get to meditation
November 19, 2025 at 12:09 AM
Riding the bus to see the movies is like a fuckin mix of my autistic hyperfixations, like this is the closest I’ll ever get to meditation
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I started watching videos about competitive tetris players and my mind has been completely blown. These are levels of autism previously thought unreachable. I can't believe people wanna get rid of autism, it's the only thing powerful enough to propel competitive tetris and that's a good thing.
November 17, 2025 at 8:40 PM
I started watching videos about competitive tetris players and my mind has been completely blown. These are levels of autism previously thought unreachable. I can't believe people wanna get rid of autism, it's the only thing powerful enough to propel competitive tetris and that's a good thing.
I am slowly making progress with my night terrors and I've reached a hilarious point where I still do the full panic & scream at the shadow monster in the corner... But then I come out of it, remember everything, get really exasperated at myself, and put myself back to sleep.
November 18, 2025 at 2:55 AM
I am slowly making progress with my night terrors and I've reached a hilarious point where I still do the full panic & scream at the shadow monster in the corner... But then I come out of it, remember everything, get really exasperated at myself, and put myself back to sleep.
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The most mind blowing thing to realize being autistic is it still counts as having communication or social struggles if you get frustrated, angry, or resentful often when other people violate perceived social rules or communication norms, even if you yourself always follow said guidelines with ease.
November 17, 2025 at 7:18 PM
The most mind blowing thing to realize being autistic is it still counts as having communication or social struggles if you get frustrated, angry, or resentful often when other people violate perceived social rules or communication norms, even if you yourself always follow said guidelines with ease.
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I don't expect the bluesky mods to enforce their TOS against government accounts.
But they are the ones who decided to make the social media site where all the autistic people hang out.
"Say what the rules actually are, then apply them like you said you would" is a bare minimum for this crowd.
But they are the ones who decided to make the social media site where all the autistic people hang out.
"Say what the rules actually are, then apply them like you said you would" is a bare minimum for this crowd.
November 17, 2025 at 7:24 AM
I don't expect the bluesky mods to enforce their TOS against government accounts.
But they are the ones who decided to make the social media site where all the autistic people hang out.
"Say what the rules actually are, then apply them like you said you would" is a bare minimum for this crowd.
But they are the ones who decided to make the social media site where all the autistic people hang out.
"Say what the rules actually are, then apply them like you said you would" is a bare minimum for this crowd.
I did this but I put some of the best decor where only I can see it because most calls are 60 mins tops but I work in that space 8 hrs a day. I put fake flowers behind my monitor to boost my mood and display my degrees on a wall the camera doesn't see because I like them but callers usually don't.
I find it fascinating that almost every person's home I visit now has an area set up to be camera-ready, whether through Zoom, a YouTube camera, or something else, to make your living space aesthetically pleasing for people who will never actually physically enter it.
November 16, 2025 at 1:43 AM
I did this but I put some of the best decor where only I can see it because most calls are 60 mins tops but I work in that space 8 hrs a day. I put fake flowers behind my monitor to boost my mood and display my degrees on a wall the camera doesn't see because I like them but callers usually don't.
TFW the coffeeshop has a cool looking drink with a long name you just know you're gonna stumble over so you practice before ordering it 🫣
Pippa Durham, 31, visits her local cafe every Saturday for a tea and an almond croissant. She first fancied a cappuccino nearly three months ago and is reportedly almost ready to try asking for it.
Autistic woman deep in rehearsals for non-standard food order
An autistic woman is preparing for the performance of a lifetime as "a customer who would like something slightly different from the menu". Pippa Durham, 31, visits her local cafe every Saturday for…
thedailytism.com
November 15, 2025 at 6:24 PM
TFW the coffeeshop has a cool looking drink with a long name you just know you're gonna stumble over so you practice before ordering it 🫣
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youre asking chatgpt. im asking my discord full of autistic people that i keep in my back pocket. we are not the same.
November 15, 2025 at 5:41 PM
youre asking chatgpt. im asking my discord full of autistic people that i keep in my back pocket. we are not the same.
Do I have an anxiety disorder or am I just carrying my parents' anxiety that was never mine
November 15, 2025 at 3:14 PM
Do I have an anxiety disorder or am I just carrying my parents' anxiety that was never mine