Abbi
@objectascetics.bsky.social
Hairy Anchorite |🌱 Into ecocriticism, (horror) literature, (modern) psychoanalysis, continental philosophy, and dad jokes🍂 | Therapist to be
On the rotten core:
open.substack.com/pub/tomwoold...
open.substack.com/pub/tomwoold...
The Self That Feels “Dirty Inside”
Abjection, Contamination, and the Boundaries of the Mind, Part II
open.substack.com
December 7, 2025 at 11:53 PM
On the rotten core:
open.substack.com/pub/tomwoold...
open.substack.com/pub/tomwoold...
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I think this is precisely what needs to happen.
Finally, those differences we DO have, those moments of misunderstanding are so easily talked through.
We as queer people need to talk to each other, across the generations. Let's stop allowing cis het incendiary media divide us and exploit our differences, and talk for us.
We as queer people need to talk to each other, across the generations. Let's stop allowing cis het incendiary media divide us and exploit our differences, and talk for us.
December 7, 2025 at 10:21 AM
I think this is precisely what needs to happen.
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Ah yes my iPhone went back in time 40 years and affected my brain development 15 years before I used the internet
I see Hadley Freeman is back on her horse about ADHD/autism. Only this time she is obviously far more aware of the reality than...checks notes, the actual expert. Does she ever get bored of just churning out the same old ignorant attacks on different groups?
www.thetimes.com/article/476e...
www.thetimes.com/article/476e...
December 7, 2025 at 4:24 PM
Ah yes my iPhone went back in time 40 years and affected my brain development 15 years before I used the internet
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Dat hadden ze zich natuurlijk wel kunnen beseffen. Ik wel, daarom stemde ik dus geen D66. Maar goed het is wat het is.
Nog voor het weekend voorbij is offerde D66 Rogier van Boxtel in Buitenhof PvdA/GL al op aan de VVD.
Weinig stemmers op Rob Jetten zullen van te voren beseft hebben dat ze de VVD, de voormalige partner van de PVV van Geert Wilders, er gratis bij kregen.
Die zullen zich met Yeşilgöz bedrogen voelen
Weinig stemmers op Rob Jetten zullen van te voren beseft hebben dat ze de VVD, de voormalige partner van de PVV van Geert Wilders, er gratis bij kregen.
Die zullen zich met Yeşilgöz bedrogen voelen
December 7, 2025 at 1:06 PM
Dat hadden ze zich natuurlijk wel kunnen beseffen. Ik wel, daarom stemde ik dus geen D66. Maar goed het is wat het is.
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This, and very much this.
I have no problem with the government wanting to understand what’s going on with mental health in the UK - I (and most therapists) can help them......
www.bbc.co.uk/news/article...
www.bbc.co.uk/news/article...
December 5, 2025 at 8:42 AM
This, and very much this.
Thinking of how emotional regulation is increasingly referred to in clinical terms, disconnected from meaning.
December 4, 2025 at 10:01 PM
Thinking of how emotional regulation is increasingly referred to in clinical terms, disconnected from meaning.
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Oprah recently did a podcast on the topic of adult children choosing "no contact" with family members. I didn't listen to the episode, but in clips I felt that sometimes the language used focused on parents being "estranged" from children; as if the child was upsetting the family dynamic.
December 4, 2025 at 7:56 PM
Oprah recently did a podcast on the topic of adult children choosing "no contact" with family members. I didn't listen to the episode, but in clips I felt that sometimes the language used focused on parents being "estranged" from children; as if the child was upsetting the family dynamic.
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Some people struggle b/c they “think too much” and “cannot feel”
Others struggle b/c they “feel too much” and “cannot think”
Psychotherapies that see everyone needing one of these solutions, instead of understanding the contextual, dynamic person … can create harm
Others struggle b/c they “feel too much” and “cannot think”
Psychotherapies that see everyone needing one of these solutions, instead of understanding the contextual, dynamic person … can create harm
December 1, 2025 at 2:37 PM
Some people struggle b/c they “think too much” and “cannot feel”
Others struggle b/c they “feel too much” and “cannot think”
Psychotherapies that see everyone needing one of these solutions, instead of understanding the contextual, dynamic person … can create harm
Others struggle b/c they “feel too much” and “cannot think”
Psychotherapies that see everyone needing one of these solutions, instead of understanding the contextual, dynamic person … can create harm
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Not to be flip, but repeated COVID infection has neurological impacts and I wonder how much contemporary dysfunction that has worsened…
November 28, 2025 at 10:27 PM
Not to be flip, but repeated COVID infection has neurological impacts and I wonder how much contemporary dysfunction that has worsened…
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Hulde voor de Volkskrant. Broodnodige reconstructie van bizarre berichtgeving met grote gevolgen.
Als je één stuk leest dit weekend, lees dan dit www.volkskrant.nl/politiek/han...
Als je één stuk leest dit weekend, lees dan dit www.volkskrant.nl/politiek/han...
Hans Wijers’ val als informateur ettert nog altijd door: wat gebeurde er precies?
Het informateurschap van Hans Wijers duurde minder dan een etmaal. Toch dreunt zijn val na in de politieke, journalistieke en zakelijke wereld. Ongeschonden is niemand. ‘Ik ben helaas suspect number o...
www.volkskrant.nl
November 29, 2025 at 12:34 PM
Hulde voor de Volkskrant. Broodnodige reconstructie van bizarre berichtgeving met grote gevolgen.
Als je één stuk leest dit weekend, lees dan dit www.volkskrant.nl/politiek/han...
Als je één stuk leest dit weekend, lees dan dit www.volkskrant.nl/politiek/han...
Nothing hits like an old Sara Bareilles song 👌
November 28, 2025 at 8:09 PM
Nothing hits like an old Sara Bareilles song 👌
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Trauma integration, relational trauma particularly, can be raging, hateful, and powerful in very uncomfortable ways.
If a therapist needs to be seen as good and kind, they will struggle.
Unfortunately, it is the clients who will pay for that.
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If a therapist needs to be seen as good and kind, they will struggle.
Unfortunately, it is the clients who will pay for that.
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November 28, 2025 at 5:37 PM
Trauma integration, relational trauma particularly, can be raging, hateful, and powerful in very uncomfortable ways.
If a therapist needs to be seen as good and kind, they will struggle.
Unfortunately, it is the clients who will pay for that.
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If a therapist needs to be seen as good and kind, they will struggle.
Unfortunately, it is the clients who will pay for that.
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(see also the cPTSD/BPD debates [and why my group practice and so many others treats one but not the other])
(see also the cPTSD/BPD debates [and why my group practice and so many others treats one but not the other])
It really bothers me how often trauma recovery narratives are, broadly speaking, so *nice*.
And it concerns me that some therapists may be expecting *nice* clients who will steadily work towards vulnerability and not give them too hard a time.
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And it concerns me that some therapists may be expecting *nice* clients who will steadily work towards vulnerability and not give them too hard a time.
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November 28, 2025 at 8:03 PM
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Expressing that a job as a low-level secretary would make me want to rip out my hair, only to be met with "nobody gets their dream job first try", and not to look down on that kind of work.
November 25, 2025 at 6:02 PM
Expressing that a job as a low-level secretary would make me want to rip out my hair, only to be met with "nobody gets their dream job first try", and not to look down on that kind of work.
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fascinating how the question “what makes a master therapist” seems to evoke as many answers as there are therapists and patients
today mine was the one capable of identifying, in the most awkward, aversive, and socially off-putting behavior
some event or outcome being desperately defended against
today mine was the one capable of identifying, in the most awkward, aversive, and socially off-putting behavior
some event or outcome being desperately defended against
November 25, 2025 at 5:45 PM
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the sense in which “role self” better conveys the adaptive function and usefulness of what Winnicott called the false self
while the original term far better captures the self-deception and self-betrayal involved in the various acts of being untrue to oneself
while the original term far better captures the self-deception and self-betrayal involved in the various acts of being untrue to oneself
November 24, 2025 at 2:59 PM
the sense in which “role self” better conveys the adaptive function and usefulness of what Winnicott called the false self
while the original term far better captures the self-deception and self-betrayal involved in the various acts of being untrue to oneself
while the original term far better captures the self-deception and self-betrayal involved in the various acts of being untrue to oneself
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Eugenics
They want eugenics
They want a new race of “superior humans” which is called Nazi-ass level eugenics
They want eugenics
They want a new race of “superior humans” which is called Nazi-ass level eugenics
Therapies using gene-editing technology are starting to appear. But these treatments have their challenges
Tech billionaires want to make gene-edited babies
Widespread bans don’t seem to be a hindrance
econ.st
November 22, 2025 at 7:54 PM
Eugenics
They want eugenics
They want a new race of “superior humans” which is called Nazi-ass level eugenics
They want eugenics
They want a new race of “superior humans” which is called Nazi-ass level eugenics
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“RCTs or STFU” is its own form of fundamentalist dogma in medicine that is ultimately incoherent and self-serving.
November 22, 2025 at 8:33 PM
“RCTs or STFU” is its own form of fundamentalist dogma in medicine that is ultimately incoherent and self-serving.
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Many advocates of alternatives to established medical care are blatantly dangerous.
This is a heartbreaking article of how things can go wrong.
“Nobody joins a cult willingly. You think you’re joining a great movement.”
www.theguardian.com/world/ng-int...
This is a heartbreaking article of how things can go wrong.
“Nobody joins a cult willingly. You think you’re joining a great movement.”
www.theguardian.com/world/ng-int...
Influencers made millions pushing ‘wild’ births – now the Free Birth Society is linked to baby deaths around the world
A year-long investigation reveals how mothers lost children after being radicalised by uplifting podcast tales of births without midwives or doctors
www.theguardian.com
November 22, 2025 at 9:18 AM
Many advocates of alternatives to established medical care are blatantly dangerous.
This is a heartbreaking article of how things can go wrong.
“Nobody joins a cult willingly. You think you’re joining a great movement.”
www.theguardian.com/world/ng-int...
This is a heartbreaking article of how things can go wrong.
“Nobody joins a cult willingly. You think you’re joining a great movement.”
www.theguardian.com/world/ng-int...
Ahhh, my heart.
youtu.be/mJccPYV7UGA?...
youtu.be/mJccPYV7UGA?...
Sara Bareilles - Salt Then Sour Then Sweet (Official Lyric Video) ft. Brandi Carlile
YouTube video by SaraBareillesVEVO
youtu.be
November 18, 2025 at 9:30 PM
Ahhh, my heart.
youtu.be/mJccPYV7UGA?...
youtu.be/mJccPYV7UGA?...
This really speaks to a significant difference between my first long-term therapist, who practised CBT with a dash of ST, and my second one, whose approach was ST with a hefty dose of MBT. Night and day in terms of effectiveness.
There is generally a lot of resistance among therapists to the idea of exploring the rupture in the here and now and taking responsibility for the harm done, and yeah, it’s a challenging way of working.
It means being vulnerable with your clients. It means acknowledging the validity of their anger
It means being vulnerable with your clients. It means acknowledging the validity of their anger
November 18, 2025 at 8:34 PM
This really speaks to a significant difference between my first long-term therapist, who practised CBT with a dash of ST, and my second one, whose approach was ST with a hefty dose of MBT. Night and day in terms of effectiveness.
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Thoughts on shame in therapy:
Ime, most psychodynamically trained therapists have been taught to explore the early origins of the client’s pain when expressed toward the therapist.
But importantly, I and many others were not taught that the client’s reaction also belongs in the here and now.
Ime, most psychodynamically trained therapists have been taught to explore the early origins of the client’s pain when expressed toward the therapist.
But importantly, I and many others were not taught that the client’s reaction also belongs in the here and now.
November 17, 2025 at 10:56 PM
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Even though no one will be surprised to learn Farage was stunningly racist & antisemitic as a teenager, the details of its extent & viciousness is still shocking. Truly vile examples. Which for me again raises the qn abt the British public school system
‘Deeply shocking’: Nigel Farage faces fresh claims of racism and antisemitism at school
‘Deeply shocking’: Nigel Farage faces fresh claims of racism and antisemitism at school
Bafta-winning director among contemporaries urging contrition and apology from Reform UK leader, who denies the allegations
Portrait: Tom Pilston
It is the hectoring tone, the “jeering quality”, in Nigel Farage’s voice today that brings it all back for Peter Ettedgui. “He would sidle up to me and growl: ‘Hitler was right,’ or ‘Gas them,’ sometimes adding a long hiss to simulate the sound of the gas showers,” Ettedgui says of his experience of being in a class with Farage at Dulwich college in south London.
Ettedgui, 61, is a Bafta- and Emmy-winning director and producer whose credits include Kinky Boots, McQueen and Super/Man: the Christopher Reeve Story. Continue reading...
www.theguardian.com
November 18, 2025 at 5:37 PM
Even though no one will be surprised to learn Farage was stunningly racist & antisemitic as a teenager, the details of its extent & viciousness is still shocking. Truly vile examples. Which for me again raises the qn abt the British public school system